Monday 26 October 2009

Is Money And Anxiety Ruining Your Marriage?

By Kathy Nelson

Your wife will probably know there is something wrong with you that requires you to go see a Dr long before you even thing about it. Men who are not married have a significantly lower life expectancy then men who are married.

As we enter into tough financial times in our present economy the pressures that we all face on a regular basis due to financial problems which occur in every family from time to time will increase. America is currently seeing the highest amount of foreclosures since records started being kept and this along with fears of job downsizing causes worry and stress to the best of us.

You know how much pressure your spouse can handle, in these times of financial difficulty you must be more aware than ever before of these pressures and how they are affecting your partner. A job loss in the family or ongoing medical bills can quickly cause financial difficulties in the best organized family.

This could well be the tipping point when the moments of anxiety will turn into a full blown anxiety or panic attack. As the number of job losses and foreclosures rise so will the number of divorces and separations, but you do not have to become a statistic.

How will you know if the financial pressures are pushing your partner towards an anxiety attack? Well you should be able to notice changes in the way they behave around you and also the way they behave in the lead up to social situations and during the social situations themselves.

There is no shame to having feelings of anxiety and even panic, the only shame is if you know your partner is suffering and you don't do anything to help them deal with it. When you work together you have a much better chance of dealing with the anxiety and the root cause of it earlier and with less pain than if you just ignore it and hope it goes away.

Anxiety attacks can be totally debilitating, they can also ruin the life of not just the person who suffers with them but their spouse as well. Since anxiety affects both of you to some degree, you should both be willing to go and discuss it with experts. You are not the first couple to be in this situation so don't worry about being embarrassed.

Financial problems can put you through some very scary times and they can be a major contributing factor to causing anxiety and panic attacks as well as other forms of mental illness. We advise people to go see a Dr or medical professional for their anxiety but it is also worth asking if the Dr knows of any volunteer groups that have financial experts who can offer you advice as well. Your marriage is worth saving, make the effort to get help for all your problems.

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